When everything feels overwhelming, we’re here to help you take the next step.

• • Stay hydrated and eat something small if you can.
• • Ask one trusted person to be your “helper” for calls/texts.
• • Make a short list: what must happen today vs. what can wait.
• • If arrangements are needed, choose one next step (not all steps).

• • If applicable, contact the funeral home/hospital for guidance.
• • Identify who needs to be notified now (spouse/partner, key family).
• • Locate essentials: ID, insurance card, any known paperwork.
• • Consider requesting multiple death certificates (often needed later).

• • Ask your workplace about bereavement leave / PTO options.
• • Keep a simple notebook: who you called, dates, what was said.
• • Choose one supportive person for check-ins (daily or every other day).
• • Limit big decisions when possible—especially financial ones.

• • Begin paperwork in small blocks (20–30 minutes at a time).
• • If you’re sorting belongings, set gentle boundaries and ask for help.
• • If sleep is disrupted, focus on a consistent routine (not perfection).
• • Check in with your body: hydration, meals, and short walks if possible.

Subject: Bereavement Leave\n\nHi [Name],\n\nI’m writing to let you know I experienced a death in my family. I’d like to request bereavement leave starting [date].\n\nI’ll share a brief coverage plan for urgent items. Thank you for your understanding.\n\nSincerely,\n[Your name]

Subject: Availability Update\n\nHi [Name],\n\nI’m navigating a family loss. For the next [timeframe], I may be slower to respond. If something is urgent, please text/call me.\n\nThank you,\n[Your name]

• • “They died. That means their body stopped working.”
• • “It’s okay to feel sad, angry, confused, or nothing at all.”
• • “We can talk about them anytime you want.”
• • “You are safe, and we will take care of each other.”

• • Questions may repeat (they’re trying to understand).
• • Grief can show up as irritability, clinginess, or play.
• • Routines help kids feel safe.
• • If you’re worried, consider talking with a pediatrician or counselor.

• • Request multiple death certificates (often required).
• • Locate insurance policies and contact the provider(s).
• • Ask employer HR about final pay, benefits, and beneficiary processes.
• • Avoid major financial decisions while in shock if possible.

• • Keep a single folder: notes, copies, and contact names.
• • Be cautious with unsolicited calls or urgent “payment” requests.
• • If you need support: ask a trusted person to be present on calls.
• • If something feels off, pause. You’re allowed to slow down.