You don’t have to face the loss of your child alone.
Founder’s Story

The story behind Little Piggy and Me

The mission of Little Piggy and Me was born from a family’s unimaginable loss and the realization that no parent should have to face that moment alone.

On February 10, 2023, the Espinoza family’s world changed forever.

Their son, Enrique “Ricky” Espinoza, an 18 year old student at Oregon State University with a bright future ahead of him, was driving home after completing a math mid-term when his life was tragically taken in a head-on collision caused by an impaired driver. In an instant, a young man filled with potential, kindness, and dreams for the future was gone.

Like so many families facing the sudden loss of a child, Ricky’s family was left in a state of profound shock and grief. In the hours and days that followed, they were forced to navigate something no parent is ever prepared for—the immediate and overwhelming responsibility of arranging a funeral for a child who was supposed to have an entire lifetime ahead of him.

During this time of unimaginable pain, the family encountered another unexpected reality: the systems meant to support grieving families often move slowly, are difficult to navigate, and require time and energy that families in crisis simply do not have.

In the midst of that chaos and grief, one person stepped forward—a close family friend who worked in event planning. With compassion, urgency, and care, she helped the family organize the services needed to honor Ricky’s life. Her support became a lifeline during a time when the family felt lost and alone.

That experience revealed something deeply important: no family should have to navigate the sudden loss of a child without immediate help.

From that realization, Little Piggy and Me was born.

The organization was created so that when tragedy strikes, families do not have to face the logistical, financial, and emotional burdens alone. Little Piggy and Me exists to provide rapid crisis intervention, help coordinate and fund urgent funeral needs, and connect families with trusted grief counseling and emergency psychological support during the most fragile moments of their lives.

Ricky’s life continues to inspire the mission of this organization. Through the compassion of donors, partners, and volunteers, his legacy now lives on by ensuring that families facing the unthinkable receive the support they deserve—immediately, compassionately, and without barriers.

Because even in the darkest moments, no family should have to pick up the pieces alone.

About Us

Our mission

Why Little Piggy and Me exists—and what families can expect from us in the earliest days.

Little Piggy and Me is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization. At Little Piggy and Me, we exist to support families facing one of life’s most devastating tragedies—the loss of a child. In the moments following such an unimaginable loss, families are often overwhelmed with grief, confusion, and urgent decisions. Our mission is to ensure that no family has to face those first critical hours and days alone.

Little Piggy and Me provides immediate crisis intervention and compassionate support to families navigating the sudden loss of a child. Through our network of trained advocates, community partners, and emergency psychological professionals, we help families stabilize during the most difficult moments while connecting them to the resources they need to begin the grieving process.

Our organization focuses on addressing the urgent practical and emotional needs that arise in the immediate aftermath of a loss. We help families coordinate and fund essential funeral arrangements, connect them with trusted grief counseling and trauma-informed support services, and partner with emergency psychological care providers to ensure families receive compassionate, professional care during crisis situations.

We believe that grief should never be compounded by isolation or financial hardship. By mobilizing resources quickly and coordinating support services, we aim to relieve families of logistical burdens so they can focus on what matters most—honoring their child and beginning the journey toward healing.

At Little Piggy and Me, every family we serve is treated with dignity, compassion, and unwavering support. Our work is guided by the belief that even in the darkest moments, no family should have to walk through grief alone.

Free • Confidential • Trauma-informed Phone + Text Support Immediate crisis support for families

If you’ve lost a child, you shouldn’t have to navigate the next hours alone.

Little Piggy and Me supports families facing the sudden loss of a child with compassionate crisis intervention, practical guidance, and warm, steady presence—right when everything feels impossible.

Not sure where to start? Begin with “The first 72 hours” below.

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You’re allowed to feel whatever you feel. Pick the next smallest step.

Crisis support: If you are in immediate danger or thinking about harming yourself, call 988 (U.S.) or your local emergency number.
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In the aftermath of child loss, decisions pile up fast. We’ll help you stabilize, prioritize, and find your next step.

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The First 72 Hours

In the earliest hours after losing a child, your brain and body may feel flooded, numb, or unreal. You’re not doing it wrong. This checklist is designed to reduce decision overload and help you steady.

Focus on “must-do” only
  • • Drink water. Eat something small if you can.
  • • Choose one trusted person to help answer calls/texts.
  • • Write two lists: “today” vs. “later.”
  • • Give yourself permission to postpone non-urgent decisions.
Practical next steps
  • • If arrangements are needed, take one step at a time.
  • • Ask for guidance on required documents and timing.
  • • Keep a simple note: who you spoke with, date, next action.
  • • If you’re overwhelmed, contact us—we can help you prioritize.

Overwhelmed? A 2-Minute Reset

If your chest feels tight or your thoughts are racing, a small pause can help your body come out of “emergency mode.”

  1. 1) Put one hand on your chest or belly. Inhale slowly for 4.
  2. 2) Exhale slowly for 6. Do that 3 times.
  3. 3) Name 3 things you can see, 2 things you can feel, 1 sound you can hear.
  4. 4) Ask: “What is the next smallest step?” You don’t have to do more than that.

The First Month

The weeks after losing a child can feel like time bends. This gives you a simple structure—without pressure—to help you move through what’s necessary while protecting your heart.

Week 1–2
  • • Ask your workplace about bereavement leave / PTO.
  • • Keep a notebook for calls, names, dates, and next steps.
  • • Reduce decisions where possible—your brain is in survival mode.
  • • Choose one person to help coordinate updates to others.
Week 3–4
  • • Tackle paperwork in small blocks (20–30 minutes).
  • • Lean on supports: friends, faith community, counselor, advocate.
  • • If sleep is disrupted, focus on routine—not perfection.
  • • Consider grief counseling or trauma-informed support when ready.

Work & Leave Scripts

Copy/paste and edit as needed. You don’t owe details. Keep it simple and protected.

Request time off
Subject: Bereavement Leave

Hi [Name],

I experienced the loss of my child. I need to request bereavement leave starting [date].

I’ll share a brief coverage plan for any urgent items. Thank you for your understanding.

Sincerely,
[Your name]
Set boundaries
Subject: Availability Update

Hi [Name],

I’m navigating the loss of my child. For the next [timeframe], I may be slower to respond. If something is urgent, please text/call me.

Thank you,
[Your name]

Supporting Siblings

Siblings often grieve in waves—questions, play, anger, quietness. The goal isn’t perfect wording; it’s safety and honesty.

Helpful phrases
  • • “Your sibling died. Their body stopped working.”
  • • “I’m sad too. We can talk anytime.”
  • • “You didn’t cause this. Nothing you did made this happen.”
  • • “It’s okay to laugh, cry, be mad, or feel nothing.”
What helps most
  • • Maintain small routines (meals, bedtime, school when ready).
  • • Offer choices: “Do you want a hug or space?”
  • • Prepare for regressions (sleep, behavior)—it’s common.
  • • Consider a counselor if nightmares, panic, or shutdown persists.

Practical Next Steps

In grief, paperwork and decisions can feel unbearable. This simplifies what often comes up—so you can take one step at a time.

Common early needs
  • • Help coordinating and funding essential funeral arrangements.
  • • Connecting to trusted grief counseling and trauma-informed support.
  • • Linking with emergency psychological care providers when needed.
  • • Support navigating urgent decisions without overwhelm.
A gentle safeguard
  • • Keep a single folder for notes, copies, and contact names.
  • • Pause on any decision that feels rushed or unclear.
  • • Ask a trusted person to sit with you during calls.
  • • If you need support now, book a call—we can help you sort it.
Simple process

How it works

We keep it clear, compassionate, and immediate.

1
Reach out

Call, text, or book a time that works for you.

2
Stabilize

We listen first. Then we help you steady and prioritize what’s urgent.

3
Connect

We help connect you to grief resources and trauma-informed support.